How to Tame a Supersized Ego

Self-doubt is something we all experience in our careers. Will I get through my presentation without vomiting? Can I successfully tackle this new problem? Will my colleagues see through my insecurities and still respect me?

On the other hand, too much self-confidence is just as damaging. A supersized ego alienates the people you need on your side, erodes trust and prevents you and your team from doing great work. 

8 Warning Signs of a Career-Killing Ego

  • You see yourself as the sole expert with all the answers.
  • You let your successes get to your head.
  • Anyone with a different point of view is wrong.
  • People don’t confide in you.
  • You rarely apologize.
  • You are quick to blame others.
  • You hold a grudge.
  • You lead with manipulation vs. integrity.

If you know someone with a giant ego, it’s unlikely you alone can mold them into an inspiring model of humility. Try to subtly sneak in suggestions that encourage self-reflection and an understanding of the impact of their behavior.

How to Subdue an Over-Inflated Ego

  • Admit when you don’t have the answer.
  • Seek opinions from people who think differently than you.
  • Be quiet. Listen.
  • Share the spotlight. Be vocal when others contribute to success. 
  • Ask questions to deepen your understanding.
  • Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
  • Forgive yourself and others when mistakes are made.
  • Don’t take yourself too seriously.

A giant ego will ruin your business.

It will also ruin your career.

Marta Steele is a partner @People_Results. Connect with her on Twitter @MartaSteele.