Self-doubt is something we all experience in our careers. Will I get through my presentation without vomiting? Can I successfully tackle this new problem? Will my colleagues see through my insecurities and still respect me?
On the other hand, too much self-confidence is just as damaging. A supersized ego alienates the people you need on your side, erodes trust and prevents you and your team from doing great work.
8 Warning Signs of a Career-Killing Ego
- You see yourself as the sole expert with all the answers.
- You let your successes get to your head.
- Anyone with a different point of view is wrong.
- People don’t confide in you.
- You rarely apologize.
- You are quick to blame others.
- You hold a grudge.
- You lead with manipulation vs. integrity.
If you know someone with a giant ego, it’s unlikely you alone can mold them into an inspiring model of humility. Try to subtly sneak in suggestions that encourage self-reflection and an understanding of the impact of their behavior.
How to Subdue an Over-Inflated Ego
- Admit when you don’t have the answer.
- Seek opinions from people who think differently than you.
- Be quiet. Listen.
- Share the spotlight. Be vocal when others contribute to success.
- Ask questions to deepen your understanding.
- Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
- Forgive yourself and others when mistakes are made.
- Don’t take yourself too seriously.
A giant ego will ruin your business.
It will also ruin your career.
Marta Steele is a partner @People_Results. Connect with her on Twitter @MartaSteele.